When I am talking to someone, most of the time I catch myself just thinking about my own opinions rather than hearing the other person out. Depending on what the conversation is about, I will try to get my ideas and thoughts out and not concentrate on the other person’s ideas. Although I catch myself doing this many times, I still believe I am a good listener. If someone has to talk to me and needs a shoulder to lean on I am there but it is when the conversation involves me that I become a bit of a bad listener.
A personal example would be when it comes to my boyfriend and I. When we talk, I usually just want to get my ideas out and although I listen, I can be stubborn and just focus on my thoughts. On the other hand, when my friends need advice or just someone to talk to, I am always there to listen and I actually hear them out. So I guess it just depends on who it is with and what relationship I have with that person. When it comes to being able to write down what they said, I think I would be able to. Even though I am trying to process my ideas, I still hear what they are saying and get it I just choose not to deeply listen to it.
Although I am not the same as you when it comes to this, I can see where you are coming from. I think it depends on who you are talking to. An example is when you are trying to impress someone you try and think about your ideas so you know what to say and how to say it appropriately. And then if you were talking to someone who you have no interest in, you (and I) daze off into something else. I can relate to the 'boyfriend' thing. I think that applies to all relationships because that’s what we do, we want to get our opinion out, but in order to that we have to listen to some context to be able to reply cohesive.
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