Effective communication

A concept from this chapter I found really helpful was the three aspects for effective communication; the occasion, the other person and your needs. It is important to consider the occasion you are in. This is important because it will depict what type of behavior will be used. The other person must be kept in mind to communicate effectively because if you disregard them, there is no communication. We must see the needs of different people and realize who they are in our lives. For example, parents and co-workers have different influences in your life so you must see what their individual needs are. Your own needs are also important because we do not want to always make put our needs first but neither do we want to never consider our needs. We must assess the importance of our needs in the situation.  I thought this concept was interesting because it is hard to think of all these aspects when communicating. I tend to sometimes forget other people’s needs and I lean towards my needs. After reading this, I think I realized why some of my communication is not effective. Something that happened to me recently was that I had a conflict with my dad. At the time I was only thinking about my needs and not his so we kept bumping heads. After a while I started to understand his side of the story so we ended up having a good talk.