Conflicts can be very hard for me and sometimes I let my emotions take over and that makes it harder to end that conflict. When I do try to stop the conflict it is pretty hard because I like to speak my mind and find it hard to hold myself back. Also, if the other person is not open to ending the conflict then it becomes even harder because no matter what you say or do, the conflict will continue until both parties want to end it.
The S-TLC system is a great way to approach conflict but is not easy to achieve for everyone. It is something I will try to work on for future conflicts. I do prefer to stop and think before trying to deal with a conflict because after thinking my mind isn’t so scattered and my emotions have calmed down. This becomes hard depending on what the conflict is because sometimes I just want to deal with it then and there even though I know I should stop, think and give it some time before doing anything.
I sincerely pat you on the back for being able to stop and think about a conflict while it is happening in the moment. Like you said, sometimes it helps to calm the emotional piece of the conflict. I think reading everyone’s blog posts this week has really inspired me to assess all conflicts, no matter how little or large they are, and in doing so this practice can make us all better people and better communicators. Everyone deals with conflicts differently. Since many of us are communication majors have no reason not to improve ourselves, and it would be a shame to our teachers and major class not try and be the best.
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